If you want to do family well, this will help


I’m going to say something that I wish someone had told me when my kids were little, Reader:

The holidays can bring out the best of you two… and the absolute worst.
Not because your relationship is broken, but because you’re tired, overwhelmed, and carrying more than any two people should be carrying at once. Little cracks feel bigger this time of year. Expectations are higher. Old patterns resurface. And the stress leaks into the small spaces of your home.

And honestly?
There’s a reason January is the busiest month of the year for divorce lawyers.
Couples spend November and December emotionally tapped out, avoiding the real conversations, and letting little resentments add up.

But it doesn’t have to build like that.

What I learned the hard way is this:
One intentional conversation — one hour to step back, look at what’s weighing on you, and figure out the one shift that could take the pressure off — can change the tone of your entire holiday.

It can soften tension.
It can bring you back onto the same team.
It can quiet the resentment before it grows.
It can make your home feel safer, steadier, more connected.

That’s why Mike + I created Fewer Fights by Christmas Morning — a 45-minute support session designed to help couples slow down, breathe, and get ahead of the holiday stress.

Normally it’s $147, but for Black Friday weekend, it’s $49.

Here’s your link to book:
https://www.postpartumtogether.com/store/p/fewer-fights-holiday
(quick note, if you want to ensure BOTH Mike and Chelsea can be on the call, look at hours during the school day!)

What to expect in this call:

We’ll talk through what’s been feeling heavy, identify the root pattern behind the stress, and build a simple plan you can start using this week. After the call, I’ll send you a short Holiday Quick Start Plan and a few tailored resources, so you know exactly what to do next and don't have a question about next steps for growth.

If you want a holiday that feels like home — slow mornings, easier conversations, connection instead of tension — this is one of the best, most proactive steps you can take. And truly? It will far outweigh any toy or decoration when it comes to the impact on your family.

We want more couples to feel steady and supported this season.
We want fewer families ending the year feeling disconnected and more families stepping into the holiday actually enjoying each other.

And we would love for you two to be one of them.

Book your 45-minute session for $49 before the sale ends:
https://www.postpartumtogether.com/store/p/fewer-fights-holiday

Rooting for you!

-Chels + Mike

Postpartum Together with Chelsea Skaggs

I help expecting and new parents improve their communication skills, connection points, and confidence through relationship road mapping so they can enjoy the life they've built together.

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