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Have you ever done a death meditation? It might sound morbid, but it’s one of the most life-affirming things I’ve ever done.
Let me explain.
A death meditation, in my experience, is sitting with your mortality. I like to get into bed, cozy under the covers, with my weighted blanket over me and my hands at my sides. I usually follow a guided meditation (like this one), and I imagine myself looking down at my own body.
I try to feel the culmination of my life and notice how I feel about the way I’ve lived. I imagine the world going on without me, and I ask: Is the life I’m living one I’d be proud to leave behind? Are the pieces of me I’m giving to my children and my partner the ones I want them to carry forward?
In this email, I’m going to sound like a much “better” meditator than I think I am. I think I’m a sloppy, inconsistent, brain-on-the-go meditator, and it’s something I want to keep getting better at. And also, it’s something I’ve worked at regularly, seeing how the benefits of something I thought I could “never do” have brought me a lot more clarity and peace.
A few years ago, in 2021, I was in a meditation and felt this strong wave come over me and heard in my head that I was going to die at 36 years old. Part of me is like “that’s weird shit and I must have been out of it” and the other part of me is like “Wow there was some symbolism coming from the universe and it’s cool that you tapped into it.”
This past year, I’ve quietly carried that moment with me. Every day since I turned 36, I’ve asked myself: Is today the day?
Not in fear, but in curiosity.
If it is, would I be proud of how I spent it?
If today is my last day, would I be happy with the life I’ve built?
Would I be proud of the pieces of myself I leave for my kids and my husband to continue living with?
Did I spend more time on the things that really matter than on trying to impress others or follow suit with society?”
Assuming I make it 10 more days to May 9th, I’ll mark 36 not as the year of my death, but as the year of my ego death.
This has been the year I’ve shed people-pleasing patterns. The year I’ve questioned everything I was taught to value. The year I stopped playing small. I’ve run more miles. I’ve meditated more often. I’ve held longer hugs with my kids and more eye contact with my husband. I’ve tried new things. I’ve let go of what no longer serves me. I've released resentment of broken friendships. I've let go of things I thought I needed to or should "want" but at my core, I don't. I've forgiven myself. I've forgiven others. I've stopped while doing dishes to look at the sun coming through the window and leaves blowing in the wind to say "This is it. I used to dream of being this person and I'll be damned if I don't enjoy it instead of wishing away to the next "accomplishment."
And I’ve made peace with the idea that if this is as far as I ever go, I’m really damn proud of the life I’ve built.
Maybe we don’t have to have a midlife crisis, maybe we get to have a midlife awakening.
Here are a few tools that have been key to this journey for me:
Jamie Varon’s Book and Journal: Radically Content
Insight Timer Meditations
My favorite plain journals
Conversations had on the Can U Fkn Hear Me Podcast (currently on a break)
Good Clean Love Massage Candles
So here’s the bridge—from that awakening to the fire in my soul right now:
In these final days before I turn 37, I want to invite more people than ever into the kind of transformation that’s changed my own life.
For the first (and probably only) time, I’m offering 25% off my 4-month Blueprint coaching package—available for individuals or couples—between now and my birthday on May 9th.
I've never done this before, and I’m doing it now because it feels right.
The world needs this work. More than ever.
And I want to live this one wild, precious life by making the world better—one relationship, one couple, one inner transformation at a time.
Coaching with me isn’t just turning on the camera and hoping you feel better after a vent session.
It’s methodical. It’s intentional.
It’s a process that creates deep, sustainable change.
I coach because I believe one of the most powerful ways we’ll see the world shift is by helping partners become teammates, not just roommates or co-parents. I’ve worked with couples preparing for marriage, preparing for birth, and navigating years of parenting. And in every season, the methodology stays the same: build clarity, connection, and confidence that last.
This isn’t about performance. It’s about presence.
It’s about building a relationship (with yourself and with your partner) that can hold everything life throws at you and looking back one day knowing you were intentional about this life.
Every time I show up, it’s with one mission: to help you get closer to yourself. And when that happens, the ripple effect is powerful. It touches your partner, your kids, your friendships, and your future.
Because I don’t believe the point is just what we do with our days—but who we are while we’re doing it.
👉 Click here to apply for a coaching spot at 25% off before May 9th.
Let’s make this year one of deep, real transformation.
One conversation at a time.
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