Hey there friend. Have you ever felt lonely in your own relationship? Like you and your partner are physically together but emotionally miles apart? It’s one of the hardest things to admit, but I promise—you’re not alone. I remember wondering how in the world I could feel SO lonely even when I NEVER GOT A MINUTE TO MYSELF.
In this week’s podcast episode, I’m talking about why this happens, even in strong relationships, and how to rebuild that emotional connection before it turns into a bigger divide. If you’ve ever thought, Why do I feel disconnected from the person I love?—this episode is for you.
It was when my first was probably 6 months old that I first really hit a wall as a new mom. The honeymoon period had worn off. I was 6 months into being a stay at home mom even though that was never previously on my radar. We were honestly pretty broke and my husband was busting his ass to bring home money. I was jealous of everything- the conversations he had with other adults in the day, his ability to have a commute in the car where he could pick the music or audiobook without screaming in the background. On top of that jealously and resentment I felt, I didn't feel like we were connected. We didn't know what to talk about or when to talk about it. We were both so worn down and exhuasted we didn't have much to offer. I was lonely and my baby couldn't (and shouldn't) fill that gap.
For awhile that loneliness came out as snarky contempt, defensiveness, and me shutting down. Over time, we found that we both longed to feel connected and we had to work hard to make that happen. The small connections we were able to make started to add up, 5 minutes at a time. 8 years later and I truly feel like I have my bestest friend, but it wasn't always that feeling. I share more on the episode for this week.
Parenthood, Families & The Words That Stuck With Me
Recently, I found myself deep in a speech from Cory Booker—his marathon speech on the Senate floor. And while it wasn’t about relationships directly, some of his words hit hard when thinking about marriage and parenting.
Here are a few that stuck with me:
📢 "Parenting is one of the greatest acts of service, yet we don’t support parents nearly enough."
This is something I see all the time—parents feeling alone in the mental and emotional load of raising kids. But that same loneliness can creep into marriage, too.
📢"Love is not just a feeling—it’s a commitment to show up, even when it’s hard."
That right there? That’s the key to reconnecting in relationships. Love isn’t passive. It’s in the daily check-ins, the small kindnesses, and the willingness to say, Hey, we need to talk.
📢 "We build strong communities when we show up for each other."
Whether in marriage, parenting, or friendships, the solution to loneliness is rarely to pull away, it’s to lean in. To ask for help. To have the hard conversations.
If you’re feeling the weight of disconnection in your relationship, start small. This week, try one intentional moment of connection—whether it’s an extra-long hug, a real conversation over dinner, or just sitting together without distractions. And if you want more tools for reconnecting, this week’s podcast episode is waiting for you.
I’d love to hear from you—have you ever felt lonely in your relationship? What helped you reconnect? Hit reply and let me know.
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Are you a professional in the pregnancy, birth, postpartum or early parenting world? If so, this free workshop is for you! I’ll share the common relationship struggles I see in my work and offer gentle ways you can support your clients without overstepping your role.
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The Connected Couple Blueprint
A 4-month guided approach to help you and your partner break through disconnection, identify what’s really causing tension, and learn exactly how to rebuild intimacy and teamwork. With clear direction and actionable strategies, you'll stop spinning your wheels and start creating a relationship where you both feel seen, heard, and truly connected again.
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The Confident Mom Reset
Maybe what you need right now is to feel more like YOU. It’s the first step to so many things and most moms aren’t making space for it. I’ve made it easy with this 4-week small group. This is for you if…
You feel drained, stuck in survival mode, and unsure how to reclaim time for yourself.
The mental load is suffocating, and you don’t know how to lighten it.
You want to feel like you again—not just a mom, but a whole person.
You crave a community of women who get it, who won’t judge, and who are also ready for a change.
You know something needs to shift, but you’re not sure where to start.
The next group starts on April 6th. Interested, let’s talk about it!
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Mirco Coaching Sessions
NEW If you’re not ready to commit to weekly coaching, but you need something to change before you lose your ever-loving mind…This is for you.
I’ve been offering micro sessions as a consultant for another business and have found them to be really helpful! These are one-off 90-minute sessions where we’ll workshop together on the problem you want to solve, what’s in the way, and exactly what to do about it. This works if you are able to identify the one pattern, habit, or struggle you keep getting into and know you need to break. Book a micro-session now!
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Did you know?
Studies show that loneliness in a relationship can be just as harmful to your health as smoking 15 cigarettes a day. Emotional disconnection doesn’t just impact your happiness—it affects your stress levels, sleep, and even heart health. But the good news? Small, intentional efforts to reconnect can make a huge difference.
Murthy, V. H. (2023). The Healing Power of Connection: The U.S. Surgeon General’s Advisory on the Epidemic of Loneliness and Isolation. U.S. Department of Health & Human Services.
Sending you support (and permission to not do it all),
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Chelsea Skaggs
Founder, Postpartum Together
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