Love + exhaustion can live in the same house


No one warned me how quickly joy and exhaustion can collide. One moment you’re soaking in the sweetness of your baby, and the next you’re wondering how you and your partner will ever feel like the same team again.

Maybe you’ve felt it too:

  • Figuring out who does what (and silently keeping score).
  • Craving time for yourself but struggling to get it.
  • Wondering why your communication feels harder now than it used to.
  • Missing the connection you had before baby.

You’re not crazy for feeling this way. In fact, two-thirds of couples report a decline in relationship satisfaction after baby.

But here’s the truth: it doesn’t have to stay that way.

Mike and I have lived this tension. We hit the friction, stumbled through it, and came out with tools that changed how we show up as partners. And now, we get to share those tools with couples like you — so you don’t have to figure it all out in survival mode.

👉 If this feels familiar, let’s talk. We offer free connection calls to hear your story and see if support would be a fit. You can grab a time here: calendly.com/chelseaskaggs/connection-call

You’re not alone in this,
Chelsea

Postpartum Together with Chelsea Skaggs

I help expecting and new parents improve their communication skills, connection points, and confidence through relationship road mapping so they can enjoy the life they've built together.

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