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Postpartum Together with Chelsea Skaggs

Resending: he doesn't want to show up for coaching

Published 2 months ago • 1 min read

I'm working with a woman right now who's husband doesn't want to show up for coaching, but she decided that she wasn't going to let that hold her back anymore. (I was super proud of her for that!) so she and I are in a 1-on-1 coaching space right now.
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I love working with her every week. She's exploring new facets of herself that have shifted and emerged since becoming a mom a few months ago. Friendships, what self-care really is for her, parenting goals, desires for her family's future... her work in herself ripples into the whole family. And do we hope her husband finds a space to focus on his own needs and growth soon, yes, we do. But also, she deserves that for herself and can't remain held back.
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3 Areas that Can Grow

There's you- your personal wellness journey, values, growth through parenthood, all of that.
And then there's your partner and similarly, their personal journey + growth through parenthood.
And then there is the 3rd entity which is your relationship. We look at this as being its own kind of being or entity that is highly impacted by the strength of the two individuals.
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Even if one person isn't ready or willing, we strengthen a part and that strengthens the sum of them (which is the relationship).
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While it's really beautiful to grow in tandem, the reality is that sometimes it feels like we take turns growing. And that's okay. Life isn't a race to the finish line; it's a journey to be savored and your personal growth forms so much of the path.

3 Ways You Can Find Growth With Us Right Now

-> 1 on 1 coaching ($500/mo, weekly 1-hr sessions, voice memo access between calls) *No length contract required*
-> Couple's Deep Dive Coaching ($1500 total, weekly 1-hr sessions to total 14 sessions, voice memo between calls, sessions for you individually, your partner individually and the two of you together)
-> Dad's Holiday Toolkit ($17 one time purchase, specific training for dads on nervous system regulation, SOS skills when stress is high, and how to be the steady partner for your family)

New on the Podcast: One Sure Way to Eff Up the Holidays For Your Family
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Rooting for you,

Chels (+ Mike)

Postpartum Together with Chelsea Skaggs

Motherhood & Marriage

I help expecting and new parents improve their communication skills, connection points, and confidence through relationship road mapping so they can enjoy the life they've built together.

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