I help expecting and new parents improve their communication skills, connection points, and confidence through relationship road mapping so they can enjoy the life they've built together.
try this phrase this weekend to cut down on tension
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Do you ever notice how fast a small moment can spiral?
That tone? He’s definitely rejecting my new idea, so forget about it. She sighed like that again? She must think I’m lazy. He didn’t text back? Guess he doesn’t care how my day went. She walked away mid-conversation? She’s done trying. Those stories feel so real in the moment. Here’s the phrase that stops the spiral before it starts: “The story I’m telling myself is…”It sounds simple, but it interrupts the cycle of spiral and gives both of you a chance to realign on the reality. Try it this weekend. When something hits you wrong, pause and say: “The story I’m telling myself is that you’re frustrated with me for resting while you’re cleaning.” or “The story I’m telling myself is that you think I’m not good at being a new dad and you regret having a child with me.” It opens the door to understanding instead of tension. We talk all about this phrase and why it’s such a powerful tool for new parents in our latest episode of Better Relationships After Baby:
The Stories We Tell Ourselves (two part series): Rebuilding Connection, Intimacy & Identity After Baby
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Postpartum Together with Chelsea Skaggs
I help expecting and new parents improve their communication skills, connection points, and confidence through relationship road mapping so they can enjoy the life they've built together.
As a kid, I remember trying to feel what it might be like to be an adult. Most specifically, what it would feel like to be *in love.* You know, like the way grown-up couples look at each other in movies. I was in love with love. I'm a people person, and I think the idea of having "your person" to be able to be with all the time... gosh, it sounded dreamy.And that little girl was so disappointed a few years ago when she had a husband and two kids in the living room on Christmas morning, but...
Ever feel like you’re just co-managing a household instead of sharing a life?Whether you’ve got a newborn or a preschooler, it’s easy to slip into “roommate mode” where you're passing each other in the chaos instead of partnering through it. In this short, encouraging session, we’ll talk about how to move from surviving side by side to truly working as a team again. You’ll leave with simple tools to feel closer, communicate better, and actually enjoy each other in the middle of family life....
ReaderThis week, Mike and I sat down with the mic and I asked him one question: What are you most afraid of as a parent and partner? That one question opened up a really honest, powerful conversation about fatherhood, inadequacy, presence, and what it actually looks like to lead with calm instead of control. It’s a great listen for both moms and dads — maybe even one to play together. I’ve got some exciting things coming your way in tomorrow’s newsletter, but I didn’t want to wait to share...