What do you do after the fight?


Let me ask you something.

When you and your partner have a fight, whether big or small, what happens next?

Do you find your way back to each other… or does it just sit there?

Research shows it’s not the conflict itself that predicts whether couples thrive. It’s whether they know how to repair.

In this week’s episode of Better Relationships After Baby, Mike and I get really honest about what repair looks like, why it’s so vulnerable, and how simple shifts can keep you on the same team even in the hard seasons.

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Now let me ask a few more:

  • Have you ever felt like you’re living in the same house but on different islands?
  • Do little fights sometimes stretch into days of silence or distance?
  • Are you catching yourself telling “stories” about your partner’s intentions?
  • Does intimacy feel harder to reach than it used to?
  • Do you miss the way you were together before the baby?

If any of those land, here’s the hopeful part: This doesn’t have to be your new normal.
Repair isn’t something you’re born knowing, it’s something you can learn.

That’s exactly what we help couples do in our Prep for Us and Back to Us coaching programs. The next cohort begins October 6, and the first step is a free connection call. You share your story, we’ll ask the right questions, and together we’ll see if this is a good fit for your family.

👉 Book your call here

Because rupture happens automatically. Repair is a choice. And that choice changes everything.

Rooting for you,
Chelsea + Mike

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I help expecting and new parents improve their communication skills, connection points, and confidence through relationship road mapping so they can enjoy the life they've built together.

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