Let’s get real for a second—when was the last time you truly asked for help? Not the half-hearted, “Oh, I guess you could do this if you want to” kind of ask. But the “I need this, and I trust you to handle it” kind.For so many moms, asking for help feels impossible.
We tell ourselves:
❌ “I should be able to do this on my own.”
❌ “It’s just easier if I do it myself.”
❌ “By the time I explain it, I could already have it done.”
Sound familiar? This week on the Better Relationships After Baby Podcast, I sat down with Nicole Buckley, LPC, a perinatal therapist and the superstar behind Raising Good Parents, to break down why we struggle to ask for help—and how to start changing that.
She shared a mind-blowing insight: Moms get on-the-job training, but dads often have a supervisor (us). That one gutted me a bit.
We talk about:
🔹 The 3 biggest reasons moms don’t ask for help
🔹 Why it’s not just about control—it’s about anxiety and learned patterns
🔹 How to start small with low-pressure asks (before you hit your breaking point)
🔹 The internship method that makes your partner actually feel competent
If you’ve ever thought, "I have to do it all," this episode is for you.
A Quick Story From My Own Life...
In the first couple of years as a mom, I had a realization: I was micromanaging my husband when it came to the kids. I’d say I wanted help, but when he stepped in, I’d correct how he put on the diaper, how he loaded the dishwasher, how he packed the diaper bag. Looking back, it probably didn't feel good for me to constantly criticize how he did things, especially when it was over my preferences, not specifics that needed maintained for safety of the kids.
And guess what happened? He stopped offering.
It hit me—I had time to make all these mental notes and critiques because I was watching him like a supervisor instead of trusting him as a partner.
It wasn’t an easy shift, but once I let go of my grip, we both found more confidence in our roles. (And yes, the diapers were still put on just fine. 😆)
Does this resonate with you? Listen to this week’s episode for more insights!
PS: Nicole is offering a virtual self-care workshop on Thursday April 3rd. Details here.
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Maybe what you need right now is to feel more like YOU. It’s the first step to so many things and most moms aren’t making space for it. I’ve made it easy with this 4-week small group. This is for you if…
You feel drained, stuck in survival mode, and unsure how to reclaim time for yourself.
The mental load is suffocating, and you don’t know how to lighten it.
You want to feel like you again—not just a mom, but a whole person.
You crave a community of women who get it, who won’t judge, and who are also ready for a change.
You know something needs to shift, but you’re not sure where to start.
The next group starts on April 6th. Interested, let’s talk about it!
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NEW If you’re not ready to commit to weekly coaching, but you need something to change before you lose your ever-loving mind…This is for you.
I’ve been offering micro sessions as a consultant for another business and have found them to be really helpful! These are one-off 90-minute sessions where we’ll workshop together on the problem you want to solve, what’s in the way, and exactly what to do about it. This works if you are able to identify the one pattern, habit, or struggle you keep getting into and know you need to break. Book a micro-session now!
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Did you know?
Newborns recognize their mother’s voice within hours of birth. Scientists have found that babies' brains literally light up differently when they hear their mother versus any other voice.
So, next time you feel like no one’s listening to you—at least you know your baby definitely is!
Let’s Keep the Conversation Going
What’s one thing you wish you could ask for more help with? Reply to this email and tell me. I love hearing from you!
Sending you support (and permission to not do it all),
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Chelsea Skaggs
Founder, Postpartum Together
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