If yesterday’s email stirred something in you -- That little exhale, that lump in your throat, that sense of finally someone put words to it-- I want to talk directly to that part of you. Because the women who wrote back last night said things like: “I didn’t realize how much of myself I’ve lost until I read this.” “I want to feel like me again — not just function.” “I know this would help… I’m just scared to commit.” “I don’t even know what I’d do with free time anymore.” If that’s you, I...
6 days ago • 1 min read
There’s something almost every mom says to me at some point quietly, like it’s a confession: “I don’t really know who I am anymore.” Not in a dramatic, crisis-level way.More like a slow fade.A dimming.A quiet losing track of the things that once made you feel grounded and confident and… like yourself. Motherhood shifts your identity in ways you can’t fully prepare for.Research has shown this over and over (Nelson et al., 2014): becoming “Mom” doesn’t just add a role. It reshapes how the world...
7 days ago • 2 min read
Do you have a hard time prioritizing the 1000 things in your head? Do you and your partner disagree sometimes around what the priorities are? Earlier this year, Mike and I started using what's called the Eisenhower Matrix. It's simple, but it really helps us put everything into perspective and prioritize pretty quickly. The gist is that you have limited time and energy and aren't going to do all the things all the time to the extent that we want to. However, if you know what values matters...
8 days ago • 1 min read
It's 5:30pm and you scheduled a yoga class at 6... but can you really get out and go? Is it really worth it? First of all, it's getting dark. And, it has been difficult for you to get out and take up space to feel like yourself...so you hit the group text and they tell you what you needed someone else to say, what you needed accountability for: YOU DESERVE THIS TIME AND SPACE AND HONORING YOURSELF BRINGS VALUE TO YOUR WHOLE FAMILY. It's one of those days that you just feel like everytime you...
17 days ago • 1 min read
Small groups can be such magical places. Maybe you’ve had that before and you miss it. Or maybe you’ve seen the screenshots and the inside jokes and thought, I want that — I just haven’t found my people yet. Small groups let you build enough trust to say the real things — the things you wouldn't in a big group — but also give you space to show up however you are that day. You’re not expected to perform or be “on.” Just come as you are. After running small groups for 5 years, here’s what I see...
18 days ago • 1 min read
As a kid, I remember trying to feel what it might be like to be an adult. Most specifically, what it would feel like to be *in love.* You know, like the way grown-up couples look at each other in movies. I was in love with love. I'm a people person, and I think the idea of having "your person" to be able to be with all the time... gosh, it sounded dreamy.And that little girl was so disappointed a few years ago when she had a husband and two kids in the living room on Christmas morning, but...
about 1 month ago • 2 min read
Ever feel like you’re just co-managing a household instead of sharing a life?Whether you’ve got a newborn or a preschooler, it’s easy to slip into “roommate mode” where you're passing each other in the chaos instead of partnering through it. In this short, encouraging session, we’ll talk about how to move from surviving side by side to truly working as a team again. You’ll leave with simple tools to feel closer, communicate better, and actually enjoy each other in the middle of family life....
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
ReaderThis week, Mike and I sat down with the mic and I asked him one question: What are you most afraid of as a parent and partner? That one question opened up a really honest, powerful conversation about fatherhood, inadequacy, presence, and what it actually looks like to lead with calm instead of control. It’s a great listen for both moms and dads — maybe even one to play together. I’ve got some exciting things coming your way in tomorrow’s newsletter, but I didn’t want to wait to share...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
