Ever feel like you’re just co-managing a household instead of sharing a life?Whether you’ve got a newborn or a preschooler, it’s easy to slip into “roommate mode” where you're passing each other in the chaos instead of partnering through it. In this short, encouraging session, we’ll talk about how to move from surviving side by side to truly working as a team again. You’ll leave with simple tools to feel closer, communicate better, and actually enjoy each other in the middle of family life....
16 days ago • 1 min read
ReaderThis week, Mike and I sat down with the mic and I asked him one question: What are you most afraid of as a parent and partner? That one question opened up a really honest, powerful conversation about fatherhood, inadequacy, presence, and what it actually looks like to lead with calm instead of control. It’s a great listen for both moms and dads — maybe even one to play together. I’ve got some exciting things coming your way in tomorrow’s newsletter, but I didn’t want to wait to share...
18 days ago • 1 min read
Do you ever notice how fast a small moment can spiral?It just takes one tone, one sigh, one unreturned text... and suddenly your brain is filling in the blanks. That tone? He’s definitely rejecting my new idea, so forget about it.She sighed like that again? She must think I’m lazy.He didn’t text back? Guess he doesn’t care how my day went.She walked away mid-conversation? She’s done trying. Those stories feel so real in the moment.But most of the time, they’re just that, stories.And they...
22 days ago • 1 min read
Reader Most couples wait until they’re already drowning to ask for help. The strongest couples are the ones who choose support before disconnection becomes the norm. We’ve heard it so many times from couples after coaching: “I wish we’d done this sooner.” Don’t get me wrong, if you’re already feeling distance, it’s not too late. We’ve helped plenty of parents repair before that gap becomes unmanageable. But the earlier you lean in, the more space you give yourselves to enjoy this season...
27 days ago • 1 min read
No one warned me how quickly joy and exhaustion can collide. One moment you’re soaking in the sweetness of your baby, and the next you’re wondering how you and your partner will ever feel like the same team again. Maybe you’ve felt it too: Figuring out who does what (and silently keeping score). Craving time for yourself but struggling to get it. Wondering why your communication feels harder now than it used to. Missing the connection you had before baby. You’re not crazy for feeling this...
29 days ago • 1 min read
Let me ask you something. When you and your partner have a fight, whether big or small, what happens next? Do you find your way back to each other… or does it just sit there? Research shows it’s not the conflict itself that predicts whether couples thrive. It’s whether they know how to repair. In this week’s episode of Better Relationships After Baby, Mike and I get really honest about what repair looks like, why it’s so vulnerable, and how simple shifts can keep you on the same team even in...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
This morning, my husband and I stood in our home office practicing a talk about things like the mental load, sex after baby, and communication breakdowns. I heard him say, "I wanted to show up as a good dad and partner, but I really didn't know how to sometimes. I had no idea the mental load Chelsea was carrying until she kind of, well, blew up one day and rattled it all off." Yes, I remember that moment. Yes, I probably could have told him in a *kinder* way. And yes, I think couples can...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
Chelsea + Mike, Circa 2017: Me: "My brain won't let me sleep." Mike: "Just wait until tomorrow for that stuff."Me: "MUST BE NICE THAT YOUR BRAIN DOESN'T FEEL LIKE IT'S PUTTING OUT FIRES EVERY SINGLE SECOND"Mike: 😐 Did I email the daycare about that form? Do we have diapers in the next size up? When was the last time I rotated the baby’s clothes? Don’t forget to thaw the milk before tomorrow’s appointment… —the endless mental tabs that keep a household running but often fall on one parent...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
Don't tell the rest of the email list, but the Central Ohio crew is my favorite. Truly, though, there's something about in-person community that you just can't get online. Seeing someone's body language, making eye contact, seeing and hearing their voice, maybe even a "are you a hugger because I feel like we're friends now." Parenting is hard. Parenting without a strong support of people in your life who get it feels impossible. That's why a branch of our mission at Postpartum Together is...
about 2 months ago • 3 min read