I'm working with a woman right now who's husband doesn't want to show up for coaching, but she decided that she wasn't going to let that hold her back anymore. (I was super proud of her for that!) so she and I are in a 1-on-1 coaching space right now. I love working with her every week. She's exploring new facets of herself that have shifted and emerged since becoming a mom a few months ago. Friendships, what self-care really is for her, parenting goals, desires for her family's future... her...
8 days ago • 1 min read
Hey friend, I’ve been talking with a lot of couples lately, and the same three struggles keep popping up. And honestly? They’re the exact things most couples think they’re “the only ones” dealing with. So if anything here hits close to home, take a breath. You’re in good company. And I’m giving you a quick tip under each one that can help you shift things today—no call, no commitment, just something you can try. Feeling like you’re not operating as a team This shows up everywhere right now...
12 days ago • 1 min read
Hi there, I’m excited to invite you to a special event I’m hosting in partnership with Auggie, a community for parents like you! Join me and Mike for "Fewer Fights By Christmas Morning: Holiday Harmony for Couples," a free virtual event designed to get you and your partner in a good place as a team before the holidays and the new year. Event Details: 📅 Date: Thursday, December 4th🕐 Time: 1:00-1:45 pm (Eastern)📲 RSVP: Create your free Auggie account to RSVP here...
18 days ago • 1 min read
I’m going to say something that I wish someone had told me when my kids were little, Reader: The holidays can bring out the best of you two… and the absolute worst.Not because your relationship is broken, but because you’re tired, overwhelmed, and carrying more than any two people should be carrying at once. Little cracks feel bigger this time of year. Expectations are higher. Old patterns resurface. And the stress leaks into the small spaces of your home. And honestly?There’s a reason...
21 days ago • 1 min read
A tip specifically for those of you who feel like you fall into the default parent all of the time and so a holiday gathering, even with family or friends you haven't seen in awhile, isn't quite as exciting because even though your partner might be refreshed by some grown up conversation, you never really let your guard down because you're on constant baby/little kid watch so your nervous system doesn't calm enough for you to realllly relax into the time with people you love. Anyways if...
22 days ago • 1 min read
Some of you coast through the holidays with laughter and lots of hell yeahs. Some of you come up against the frustration of gender norms, upbringings, and the extra tension of the holiday time and expectations. Most of you are probably somewhere in the middle. I was happy to see a ton of you grabbed the free Holiday Mental Load Breakthrough so that you could get all of the things out of your head and into a space where you and your partner can actually work with it instead of you "just doing...
25 days ago • 1 min read
There’s a moment almost every mom has sometime between mid-November and mid-December… You’re standing in the kitchen, half-wrapping a gift, half-answering a text from your mom about Christmas Eve, half-listening to the baby fuss in the monitor and your partner walks in and says: “Just tell me what you need me to do.” And you freeze. Because if you could tell them, you would’ve. But all the mental load—the gifts, the schedules, the nap windows, the family expectations, the travel logistics,...
30 days ago • 2 min read
If yesterday’s email stirred something in you -- That little exhale, that lump in your throat, that sense of finally someone put words to it-- I want to talk directly to that part of you. Because the women who wrote back last night said things like: “I didn’t realize how much of myself I’ve lost until I read this.” “I want to feel like me again — not just function.” “I know this would help… I’m just scared to commit.” “I don’t even know what I’d do with free time anymore.” If that’s you, I...
about 1 month ago • 1 min read
There’s something almost every mom says to me at some point quietly, like it’s a confession: “I don’t really know who I am anymore.” Not in a dramatic, crisis-level way.More like a slow fade.A dimming.A quiet losing track of the things that once made you feel grounded and confident and… like yourself. Motherhood shifts your identity in ways you can’t fully prepare for.Research has shown this over and over (Nelson et al., 2014): becoming “Mom” doesn’t just add a role. It reshapes how the world...
about 1 month ago • 2 min read
