One talks. One shuts down. Here’s why.


Hey friend,

Ever feel like every little conversation turns into a standoff after baby?
👉 One of you wants to hash it out right now.
👉 The other pulls away and goes quiet.

And the harder you push, the further apart you get.

It’s not that you don’t love each other. It’s that you have different processing styles.

  • External processors lower their stress by talking it all out.
  • Internal processors calm their stress by pulling back to think first.

Same goal: Calm.
Two totally different approaches.

When you don’t recognize this, you end up fighting about how you fight instead of what you were actually trying to solve. (Sound familiar?)

That’s why Mike and I recorded this week’s podcast episode: Why Parents Fight Differently.

In just 30 minutes, we’ll walk you through:
✔ What processing styles are and how they play out after baby
✔ Why stress + lack of sleep crank the volume on your fights
✔ Practical tools to stop the demand–withdraw cycle before it takes over

💡 This episode is one you’ll want to listen to with your partner. It might just change the way you fight + the way you connect.

🎙️ Listen now

Rooting for You
Chelsea

P.S. If this one hits home, reply and tell me which processing style feels most like you—I’d LOVE to hear.

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