not the plan

Published 22 days ago • 1 min read

I had most of an email written up before lunchtime today and as I just pulled it back out to try to finish it, I'm physically sick to my stomach.

I hugged my kids extra extra tight when they got off the bus today.
And inside I'm sad and angry and sickened that in 2025, America hasn't prioritized our children. In so many ways, but today I'm specifically reminded of the way we don't have enough policies to protect our children from being attacked by weapons that have no logical place in the world.

So, I'm not going to say anything else in the email except that, dammit, parenting is really heavy sometimes. And it's more isolating and overwhelming than it should be. And our policies suck. And I don't know how to fix all of that, but I wake up every day hopeful that we can help the next generation go exponentially beyond what we do because they have more and more people in their lives that are safe and healed, and that the domino effect might just one day be enough to flip society to a better place.

We talk about something similar on the podcast this week: From People-Pleasing to Peace: Rewriting the Rules of Family Life

and if you missed the last Values workshop (Rewrite the Rules), we're hosting it again on Friday at noon. For me at least, when the world feels heavy, it feels like a good time to lean into what I can control- the energy we live our lives with inside our own home. We'll lead some conversation and practice to help you focus on that too.

https://www.eventbrite.com/e/1612050318899

Hope you get a good exhale and a shoulder rub tonight.

-chels

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