This is how you take back your life


After that conversation with my friend—the one where she realized nothing would actually fall apart if she said no—I couldn’t stop thinking about how often we all do this.

We keep saying yes because it feels safer than disappointing someone. We keep running from thing to thing, hoping it all adds up to being a “good parent” or a “good partner.” But deep down? It just leaves us stretched thin, unsure, and wishing life felt less like a treadmill.

Mike and I actually talk about it on the podcast episode that just went live this morning:

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Now imagine this instead:

  • You say yes when it lights you up—or aligns with what your family actually values.
  • You say no kindly, without the guilt spiral.
  • Your kids grow up seeing intentional choices, not parents who are constantly running on fumes.
  • And you and your partner know exactly what matters most, so your decisions feel clearer and your arguments feel lighter.

That’s what happens when you clarify your values...you stop living on autopilot and start living on purpose.

And that’s exactly what we’ll work on together in Rewrite the Rules: Building Your Family on Your Own Values.

It’s a short, donation-based workshop where we’ll:
✔ Name what really matters to your family
✔ Show you how to use boundaries to protect your energy
✔ Give you tools to compromise instead of clash
✔ Help you leave with real next steps, not just “food for thought”

👉 Save your spot here

—Chelsea + Mike

Postpartum Together with Chelsea Skaggs

I help expecting and new parents improve their communication skills, connection points, and confidence through relationship road mapping so they can enjoy the life they've built together.

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